Dealing with Your Partner’s Sexual Addiction

Maybe the discovery that your spouse or partner has a sexual addiction comes as a shock, or perhaps you knew or suspected it for some time. Either way, the knowledge rocks your relationship in a profound and devastating manner. You may try to ignore it, hoping it will go away, that somehow it’s not true, and that nothing will change between the two of you. All are natural first inclinations – and all are just delaying the inevitable. You have to find some way to deal with your partner’s sexual addiction. The question is: how? … Continue Reading

Should You Stay or Should You Go When Your Sexually Addicted Partner Refuses to Change

Everyone knows that marriages or partnerships have their ups and downs. Even the language in traditional wedding vows includes the phrases “for better or for worse,” and “’til death do us part.” Most people don’t expect the worse to include things like addiction, especially sexual addiction. Once you discover, or suspect, that your partner is a sexual addict or has a sexual compulsion – including having extramarital affairs, that’s a gut-wrenching feeling. You may think you can never recover from it fully. Naturally, you want things to go back to the way they were before the addiction. But what if your partner refuses to change? Should you stay or should you go? … Continue Reading

Coping with Sexual Addiction Urges

No one has to tell you what a sexual addiction urge is. If you have a sexual addiction, you probably experience it all too frequently. But it may be helpful to know that an urge (or craving) is a state of tension and anticipation that you experience as a desire for the specific activity. It’s also, as sexual addicts well know, uncomfortable – sometimes almost unbearably so. The longer the urge lasts, the worse it gets. Due to the immediate relief you feel once you act upon the urge, the likelihood increases that you’ll act on the urge again. In other words, the urge to engage in a sexually compulsive or addictive behavior, once acted upon, satisfies the urge – but only for a while before the scenario is repeated. Sometimes urges are acted on out of habit. Although these may be unconscious reactions, once you try to stop the behavior, the urges return with a vengeance. … Continue Reading

Addicted to Love

Is there really such a thing as a love addiction? If we say someone is addicted to love, what does that mean? Remember the classic Robert Palmer song, “Addicted to Love,” released in 1986? With lyrics that describe sweats, shakes, tight throat, inability to breathe, one-track mind, can’t get enough, oblivion being all that you need and, of course, the unforgettable refrain that you “Might as well face it, you’re addicted to love…” – could these be hallmark signs that someone has an addiction? If so, is it love or something else? … Continue Reading

Rapper Jay Who? Releases Album Based on His Porn Addiction

Chicago rapper/producer Jay Who? recently released “The Light in da’ Addict,” hip-hop’s first concept album based on porn addiction. With comedy and wit, Jay sheds light on this growing issue with a self-deprecating storyline that follows Jay as he searches for answers to his porn addiction.

The album follows his debut, the Shel Silverstein-influenced “Where da’ Sidewalk Ends,” a creative collection of stories and lyrical wit that echoes Slick Red, Eminem, and Red Man. The album, which was produced and written by Jay, secured him a spot on hip-hop’s “up-and-coming rappers” list of 2008-2009. … Continue Reading

The Basics of Sex Addiction

Just like alcoholism or drug addiction, sex addiction—or compulsive sexual behavior—is a disorder. As in all addictions, the behaviors become intensified over time and can lead to damaged relationships and other negative consequences. Some sex addicts use pornography or masturbate excessively, while others take part in illegal acts like voyeurism, exhibitionism, and even rape.

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Ten Warning Signs of Sex Addiction

With more celebrities than ever making news due to sex addiction, many people are starting to wonder what exactly this new psychiatric disorder is – and how to know the symptoms of sex addiction. After all, sex is arguably enjoyed by a majority of the population; so how can professionals differentiate between an enjoyment of sex and an actual disorder that has the potential to ruin lives and destroy important relationships?
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